Christmas has come and gone

Well, another Christmas is in the books again. It seems that they go quicker and quicker every year. It's always a busy time though, full of preparations and family gatherings. We had multiple extended family gatherings on Jeff's side the weekend before Christmas, and then the traditional van Baal Christmas Eve party. Although Christmas day was a little different this year with my mom being sick, we still had a wonderful day. Andy was home from California, and it's always so nice to see him and catch up a bit. Ben, Andy, and I went out for dinner one night last week and had the chance to catch up on a lot of life's stories. The older we get the more I appreciate our relationship, and being able to discuss different things together.

I always feel a mix of relief and sadness when Christmas is done. Sometimes all of the planning and preparation, parties and gatherhings, get a little stressful, but it's important that I remember it's a special time of year. Christmas also signals the end of a year, and the beginning of a new one. This year was extra fun celebrating with Caleb, as he got to really enjoy and Christmas opening gifts. He got SO many great new toys, and I had to go out and get new storage tubs this morning to put some of the old away and make room for the new. It's so much fun to see him light up and enjoy his new toys. I know there will be many more fun Christmas' ahead!

Thank you to all of you for everything you did for us for Christmas. We truely appreciate every gift, and simply your presence alone was enough. As we approach 2011, I'm going to reflect on what this past year brought, and give thanks for health, happiness, family, and friends.

"I will honor Christmas in my heart, and try to keep it all year long."

A Mother's intuition

For any of you who aren't aware, Jeff and I have been a little concerned over the past month or two about Caleb's speech development. Most 18 month olds should have a decent vocabulary of simple words. I know it does no good to compare, and not every child develops at the same rate. I'm well aware of this fact, and for that reason I keep telling myself that everything is fine. He understands what we say most of the time, and can point and compare many things. He just won't say any clear words; a lot of babbling goes on around here! My mommy intuition (and being a worrier) tells me I need to dig a little deeper and step up my game, despite what Caleb's pediatrician says.

This morning Caleb woke up with rosy, red cheeks and a fever. He hasn't been eating much the past few days, so I instantly thought he had another ear infection. He has had 3 ear infections since early October, and we never really know when he has one until they are bad enough to cause fevers or loss of appetite. All of these ear infections, combined with slow speech development, lead me to think the two are related. I've researched alot about ear infections and fluid in the ear that leads to hearing loss. Essentially, the child hears like they are underwater, thus different frequencies of language aren't picked up. This problem can be resolved by a quick surgical procedure of inserting ear tubes in to the canals of the ear. This relieves the fluid buildup, and prevents frequent ear infections as well as improving hearing. I am no doctor, but I'm going to trust my maternal instincts and get this ball rolling. I've scheduled an appointment with an Ear, Nose, and Throat doctor in January, as well as an evaulation with a speech therapist.

Maybe I'm going over board, but I just can't help myself. Any moms knows that when your child hurts, you hurt. He can't tell me what he needs, so I'm going to make those decisions for him. I want the very best for Caleb, and will do whatever I feel is necessary. Tell me that I'm over-reacting, but I just have a feeling that my Mommy intuition will play out correctly in the next few months

"When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice; once for herself, and once for her child."

I am Dutch

Well, the title of this entry is just the plain and simple truth. I am Dutch in all ways possible I'm afraid. Well, at least as far as finances are concerned. I suppose I'm not so bad that I won't splurge now and then, but I find as the holidays roll around I really realize how Dutch I am. First, let me just ask, is that statement even real? If you are 'Dutch' does that mean you are a cheapskate? Well, I really am of Dutch heritage, but, I must admit, I'm also sort of a cheapskate. One of the signs of this disorder is that I have buyers remorse. Sometimes after a purchase is made, I think to myself, "Oh, I could have found this for a better deal." Or, "I better just return this, I don't really need it."

Today I finished my Christmas shopping. Although I enjoy getting gifts for others, I also find myself feeling a slight level of panic. I don't really know why either. It's not like we are so poor that we can't pay our heating or lighting bills. In fact, we are very blessed. I think I just have this programming in my brain that subtracts each purchase automatically.

Jeff often tells me that I can't take money to the grave. This is a very true statement. In some ways, I wish I was more easy-going about financial decisions. I'm not really sure what exactly I'm saving for. Ok, that's a lie....but it's not something that I desperately need. Maybe I just like knowing that I have a little extra change to fall back. Stability, if you will. I will justify my 'Dutchness' by saying that living on one income is difficult. So, you might say, 'go out and work then!'. True, I could, but I'd rather be Dutch and pinch my pennies, than miss out on watching my baby grow.

As Christmas swiftly approaches, I hope to remind myself that I have all I need. Maybe as a New Year's resolution I will try to be less Dutch. Or not.

"You're not much if you're not Dutch."

Winter has arrived

When the first snow of the year arrives, I consider it to be the beginning of the long, cold, snowy winter season. I like the snow, especially around the holidays, and I even like it through January and February. After that, it gets a little old, but anyone who lives in MI needs to be prepared to spend a quarter of the year in these conditions. I get slightly annoyed when I hear people complain over and over about winter. Yes, it is cold, and the nasty weather gets old fast, but we live here. Just deal with it. The only exception I allow is the complaint about being stuck inside so much. This I totally agree with! The winter has only just begun and I don't know how I'll make it through in our tiny house, with a bored toddler!

Last week we woke up to our yard covered in a light dusting of snow, and I promptly brought Caleb outside to see it for himself. Hey, he better get used to it early on, right? It's kind of interesting just how much children just love the snow. It must have to do with that whole 'seeing the world through a child's eyes'. I already know there will be winters ahead where I must brave the cold, and go outside to sled and make snow angels with Caleb.

One of my favortie parts of winter is seeing the land covered in a blanket of white. It's almost refreshing to see everything sparkling and pure. Well, until the snow plow and salt trucks come though, and make everything in to a brown slush. But we can just imagine that never happens, right? :)

So, let's try to enjoy this winter weather. There is a light at the end of the tunnel.....unfortunately, we just entered the tunnel.

"I like these cold, gray winter days. Days like these let you savor a bad mood."

Marriage Monday

I received an email today from a blogger who I subscribe to, and each Monday the email is about marriage. Today's 'Marriage Monday' email was titled this: "Your spouse isn't the person you married." That kind of title catches your attention right away, doesn't it? Here is an excerpt from the book this blog was referring to:

"The person lying beside you in bed night after night, year after year, is not the same individual who stood with you at the altar on your wedding day. Everyone changes. Everyone's worldview evolves because we are thinking, emotional creatures. It's naive and foolish to believe that the views, opinions, and values held by you or the person you married were cast in concrete on your wedding day."

This is definetly something to stew over, and after thinking about it for awhile, I'd have to agree. I haven't been married for years and years, and gone through all of life's ups and downs, but I've been married long enough to know that I'm probably not the exact same person that stood in front of Jeff 4 years ago. I believe that each and every year we are married, we experience different events and emotions that bind to our ever-changing character. Of course, I haven't totally changed, but I bet that if you asked Jeff, he would tell you that I'm not the same girl who stood before him on our wedding day. Life changes you. I hope it has changed me for the better and will continue to do so, but there may be changes that he doesn't care for too. That's a part of learning to live as one with the marriage partner you chose. We were young. We were in love. And when you're young and in love, the world is full of endless possibilities. The eyes and hearts of dreamers, right? Time will inevitably change everyone, and I think we all do our best to stay true to ourselves. But maybe, just maybe, as time lapses by, we recognize new and changed things about ourselves. Ways that we've progressed, and ways that we've regressed.

The blog email goes on to say that in our marriages, we must weekly take the time to ask these two important questions:

1. What are you most worried about right now?
2. Is there any way I can help you with that concern?

I know Jeff and I don't ask these questions weekly, probably not even monthly. That's why I felt compelled to write this blog today. So if anyone else is out there wondering why the person they married seems a bit different today, maybe they can see that they're not alone, and that change isn't always such a bad thing. Marriage wouldn't last if we didn't flow with the changes.

"A wise spouse understands the critical importance of creating a scheduled and protected space on the calendar for the sole agenda of allowing the other person an opporunity to put into words what is currently incubating in the heart and mind."

The holidays are upon us!

It's been a busy last few days! Thursday was Thanksgiving and we went to the Miedema's for the big meal. It was a nice dinner, and then we sat around and talked for a few hours. Later we went over to my Mom and Dad's and had some dessert. Unfortunately, Caleb didn't get a nap in that day, and was tired and cranky by 7:00 pm. He held up pretty well though, considering all the activity and people. We are blessed beyond belief to have our health, family, shelter, and food thoughout another year.

Friday morning I went out shopping with my mom. Now, we aren't those die-hard Black Friday shoppers who stand in line for hours, in sub-zero temperatures, hoping to trample everyone and get our hands on a t.v. or something. Our style is much more relaxed. Breakfast first (of course!), then out to see what sort of sales are going on. We didn't even have anything specific in mind this year to buy, and that's probably a good thing because we don't have the drive to get out and fight the crowds. I mean, who wants to wake up early after a full day of eating and sitting around? Actually, we really didn't find much, but the time we spent together was fun, and it's a great time to catch up and just enjoy eachother. Love you mom! I then had a fun girl's night at Steph's house. (Oh yeah- thanks for watching Caleb most of the day Jeff.)

Saturday I put up Christmas decorations around the house. It got a little stressful in the morning with Caleb. When Jeff is home on the weekends he acts up alot, it seems. Or maybe it's just that he likes Jeff more than me. Either way, he's attached to Jeff and wants nothing to do with me. It gets a little frustrating, but luckily he took a long nap and I was able to de-stress. Jeff went out and pushed deer with his male family members, and ended up shooting a doe. We went out for a quick dinner and that was our Saturday!

Finally, today, we ended the weekend by cutting down our Christmas tree. It was a perfect day, and we had no trouble finding the right tree. Caleb didn't really care about the tree selecting, but enjoyed following the chickens that lived on the farm around. He even got to pick an egg out of their boxes! Maybe we should consider getting some chickens or small farm animals. I think he would love it. Chickens stink though....

So, the end of the busy weekend is upon us. I made some brownies, and I think I'll go eat them. It's the perfect ending to a busy, but fun weekend. I live such a blessed life. Sometimes it amazes me just how lucky I am.

"So often we dwell on the things that seem impossible rather than on the things that are possible. So often we are depressed by what remains to be done and forget to be thankful for all that has been done."

The Joys of Mothering

On Friday I had Caleb's 18 month pictures taken, and of course, they are adorable. When I got home I compared the current pictures to those of the ones of him at 3 or 6 months. It's so unbelieveable to see how much he has changed in a year! This time last year he was just learning to sit up on his own, and now he's his own little person flying around the house. I'm so excited for the upcoming holidays to see his reactions and create memories with him. Is there anything better than getting to see Christmas through the eyes of a little child?

The right word to use for being a mother to my Caleb, is Joy. There is no other way to simplify what I feel when I look at him. Granted, there are times when I'm not joyful. Overall, though, those unjoyful moments are quickly out numbered by the joyful ones. The past few nights as I've put Caleb to bed, I take a quick moment to rock him in my arms. Before I know it, he'll be too tall and too embarrased of his mom. So, I'm savoring that little joy for all it's worth.

Enough of my sappiness though. I think joy is hard to find in this world, so to be able to find it in the eyes of my little boy, is definetly heaven sent.

"Learning to live in the present moment is part of the path of joy."

Drives me nuts

There are a few things that drive me nuts in this world. I thought I would share a few of them with you today. I'm writing about this because lately I've felt that my nutso sensor has been tapped in to quite a bit. Of course, these things are all in good fun. Right? Let's begin.....

1. People driving too slow, or riding so close behind me I can't see their front bumper. Or parking so close to my car that I have to instantly lose 20 pounds to get in my door. This annoys almost everyone, right?

2. Use of imaginary words, or improper grammar. Now, I'm no English teacher, so I probably am guilty now and then of this mistake. But, nevertheless, it still drives me nuts.

3. When you tell someone you're not interested in what they have to sell, and they repeatedly keep calling you. Up to 5 times a day. What do I need to say to get my point across?!

4. The long, whining noise that Caleb seems to enjoy making.

5. Mice that live in our house walls, scratching their way around while I watch TV.

6. Losing power at least once a month.

7. Feeling like I must conform to a 'way of life' that I just can't seem to wrap my head around.

8. How much dust and dog hair accumulate in my house within a matter of hours. ( I know, the dog hair is my fault since I have a dog.)

9. The frustration of Caleb deciding not to eat more than a few bites of food all day long. It's my motherly duty to make sure he eats and grows!

10. My wish that life was more simple, and privacy more respected.

So, now that I've shared my Top 10 Things that Drive Me Nuts lately, what's on your list?

"A question that sometimes drives me hazy; am I or are the others crazy?"

Little Personality

I haven't written in a while, simply because I don't have a very exciting life and there isn't always something to write about everyday! I figured I better write at least once a week, even if nothing significant happened. So, I thought I'd take a quick moment and just say that it's amazing how such a little person can have their very own personality.

Maybe it's just the toddler years, or maybe it is his true personality, but either way, it's interesting to say the least. First, I'll just say that Caleb has a gentle, sweet personality. I do think he got that from Jeff, but then ocassionally, I see a little bit of me pop out of him. He is stubborn, and wants things the way he wants them. If you move his truck to one spot, he will mostly likely grab it and put it back exactly where it was before. I have to say, I like things in their place, so he may have inherited that trait from me. But to say that he is a clone of Jeff and I is a lie. He's so little right now that it's easy to impress our ways upon him, but I already know that as the years pass, and he gets older, his personality will develop independent of us or anyone else. Caleb is attached to his Daddy's leg when Jeff is home, and he's attached to my leg every other time. This can be annoying, or it can make you feel like the most important person in the room. I just keep trying to remember that he changes so fast, so I better enjoy that little personality for what it is right now.

"We worry about what a child will become tomorrow, yet we forget that he is someone today."

Happy Halloween!

What a fun evening! Halloween is officially tomorrow, but we celebrated tonight by taking Caleb trick-or-treating for the first time. I'm so suprised at how much he not only enjoyed carving pumpkins this week, but also trick-or-treating. I found a giraffe costume at Old Navy earlier this month, and everytime I've tried it on him, he cried. So naturally, I figured he would cry once again when we put the costume on him tonight, but he didn't! Jeff and I took him over to his parent's house, where he got a bag of goldfish for his pumpkin bucket and took some pictures. Then we went over to my parents for trick-or-treating. Once again, I was suprised how well Caleb did. It was actually quite adorable, watching him walk down the sidewalk carrying his little pumpkin bucket. He wasn't afraid of anything or anyone, and seemed to enjoy himself.

It was one of those moments where I thought to myself, where has time gone? And why does so much change happen in one year? Just last year, our little Caleb was learning to sit up, and now he is a little boy, going trick-or-treating. I can't wait for the coming years of costumes, trick-or-treating, and fun, but I'll always remember Caleb's FIRST time trick-or-treating. So many firsts.....for him, and for his Mommy and Daddy.

"While we try to teach our children all about life, our children teach us what life is all about."

Mothers and daughters

Just thought I'd post a quick blog about my mom (and I know you'll be reading this mom, so enjoy!). The older I get, the more I enjoy spending time with my mom. She stopped over tonight to drop off some fudge from Mackinaw, and just to chat for a bit. As she sat and read a book to Caleb, I watched and thought about her time as a mother to me. Now that I'm a mom, I see many things in a new light, and recognize just how important having my mom in my life is. Our relationship has developed over the years from that of a mother and her daughter, to a wonderful friendship. I can pretty much talk to my mom about anything, and I still look to her for advice and opinions. She listens as I vent, encourages me, and consoles me. Mom, you have taught me so many great things, and there is no way I'll ever be able to repay you! I really can't even put in to words how much I love you, and how much I value our relationship. You are a magnificent mother, and a wonderful, kind woman. I love you!

"My mom is a neverending song in my heart; of comfort, happiness, and being. I may sometimes forget the words, but I never forget the tune."

It's the moments that take your breath away....

There's a fairly new George Strait song out on the radio that always makes me take a step back and think when I hear it. I think it's called "Take your breath away". The song is basically about a Dad who shows up for some important moments in his son's life, despite work,distance, and other obligations. Here's a sample:

Life's not the breaths you take,
the breathing in and out
That gets you through the day
Ain't what it's all about
You just might miss the point
Tryin to win the race
Life's not the breaths you take
But the moments that take your breath away.

Sometimes I get so caught up in day to day things, living life, just waiting for one day to be over, and the next to start. Hearing this song is a reminder that I need to slow down, and really look at what's going on with my life. I'm not sure, but I have a feeling that someday when I'm older, I won't remember Caleb's whiney days, Remmy puking on the floor, burning food, or doing all the other endless, day-to-day routines of life. I hope I remember the times that took my breath away. Like the day I got my first horse, the day I got married, Caleb's first cry as he was born, and a million other significant, yet small moments in my life.

I heard this song as I was driving to go ride tonight. As I rode under the stars outside, I cleared my head and thought about how blessed I am.

"I'd rather have a moment of wonderful than a lifetime of nothing special."

A quick quote

I just had to share this quote. It's true for all generations of families.

"Each day of our lives we make deposits in the memory banks of our children."

Memories come in all forms, but no matter what they are, you can choose how to treat them. We don't always remember days, but we remember moments.

My first love

I was looking forward to tonight all day. The reason why? Because I got to ride a horse! It's been over 2 years, or maybe more, since I have been on the back of a horse. With the help of Kate, I got the chance to ride a horse who's owner is in college and doesn't have time to ride. Guiness is a thoroughbred/clydesdale cross, standing at about 17 hands. He is a big guy, but seems very kind. Actually, he reminds me alot of my first horse, Louie.

It was so refreshing and fun to go back out to the barn I spent so many hours at, and get back for a brief moment to my first love, horses. Maybe I should use the word passion, but love seems to fit too, since I have loved horses since I was a little girl. It's the small things that make me happy when I'm around horses and a barn. The smells, the sights, and the content feeling I get when brushing a horse.

I can already tell I'll be super sore tomorrow, and I felt a little like jelly on Guiness's back, but hopefully he didn't mind. I still remember the most important parts...I don't think that will ever go away. I've spent too many years of my life ingraining those techniques in my head. I'm still hopeful that someday I'll have my own horse again. I know there's a time for everything, but I really miss riding. I'm hopeful I can fit some rides in here and there, because it is so refreshing to my soul.

"The wind of heaven is that which blows between a horse's ears."

Do fall days get any better than this?

Wow, what an awesome fall day! This morning Caleb and I headed to Robinette's Apple Orchard to meet Jen and Aly. We started going to Robinette's together before we had our kids, and it's just become a tradition since then. The weather was so great today, and we had fresh doughnuts and cider before getting on a hayride around the orchard. I think Caleb and Aly had a great time....I know Jen and I did! We were commenting on how last year Aly and Caleb were in their infant car seats, unable to even sit up yet! A lot changes in one quick year.

Later this afternoon the big MSU vs. UofM game was one, and the outcome was what I was expecting. A win for Michigan State! Jeff and I watched most of it at home, and then headed out for dinner to catch the end. It was a great day to be a Spartan!

Caleb is finally feeling better and acting like his old self again. He was walking around the house all by himself today. Walking will only happen on his terms though. If he doesn't want to do it, he definetly lets us know!

Overall, it was just a perfect day. Fall is my favorite season, and it looks like tomorrow will be another beautiful day!

"Autumn is a second spring when every leaf's a flower."

A comforting touch

Well, things took a turn for the worse here in the Miedema household last Friday night. Caleb very rarely wakes up during the night, and Friday night was one of those nights. I've learned to know what Caleb's differnt cries mean, and the cry we heard Friday night was one that needed to be attended to. With my eyes barely open, I ran to the bathroom, grabbed the childrens Motrin, and stumbled upstairs. My poor, sweet boy was burning up with a fever. Long story short, the rest of the weekend consisted of Caleb crying, whining, and feeling yucky. I took him to the Dr. this morning and found out he has a terrible ear infection. The poor guy is in so much pain, and it's very evident he's not feeling well. This is the first time in his life he's been this sick.

As parents, we hate seeing him like this. But throughout this weekend and today, I've had the 'power of mommy's touch'. Caleb has been so cuddly, and it's been kind of nice to hold him and have him fall asleep on my shoulder like he used to. Just by rubbing his back or cuddling him, for a short time I think he finds relief. I have so many memories of my mom being there for me when I was sick. Rubbing my back, sitting with me, and probably rocking me at one time, she was always there when I was sick. Even now when I'm sick, I miss my mom's tender loving care.

So, even though Caleb has been feeling terrible, and I haven't left the house much, I've had a few moments to cherish these fleeting moments where he needs me so much. I'm not going to lie- it feels good to be needed and know that I can provide comfort. For some reason, I was having flash forwards of Caleb grown up, and realizing that his little face and heavy breath of sleep on my shoulder, is fleeting. Sentimental I am, but it's worth it.

"Children arrive so fresh from heaven they are born with angel wings. If we love them competely, they are able to fly."

Introvert and Extrovert

I get a daily blog from 'Hearts at Home', and last week this was in my inbox. It pretty much fits Jeff and I to a T. (ok, we both like coffee and spicy food. I'm a morning person and he's a night owl!) I tend to be more of an introvert, and he is an extrovert. Funny...we still manage to get along somehow! Here's an excerpt:

"Mark and I are complete opposites in so many ways. He likes coffee and I like tea. He likes spicy food...mild for me. He's a morning guy and I'm a night owl. He's an extrovert and I'm an introvert.

Mark says...
I'm an extrovert which simply means that I get emotionally refueled by being with people. The more people...the better! I get to the weekend and want to socialize.

Jill says...
I'm an introvert which simply means that I get emotionally refueled by being alone. I get to the weekend and want to hole up at home.

Mark says...
Several months ago Jill and I listened to a CD about the differences between introverts and extroverts. One difference is the amount of friends they have. I have always had alot of friends and Jill has always had a small circle of friends. I frequently communicated to her that she needed to expand her friend circle. In other words...I felt there was something wrong with her because she didn't have as many friends as I did.

I was wrong. There it is in black and white for the world to see. I was wrong to impose my personality needs on her.

Another thing the speaker on the CD mentioned was that extroverts often have alot of hobbies and introverts have just one or two hobbies. I had many times told Jill that she needed to get a life. Find something she liked doing and pursue it. She was always reading and writing. That seemed like work to me...not a hobby.

Jill says...
But reading and writing are my hobbies. I love doing both. Yes, they are solitary activities...but they fit me well. And I find joy in them.

Mark says...
So I had to apologize to my wife on this one, too. I didn't realize that reading and writing were hobbies for Jill. They don't seem like alot of fun from my perspective...but we are two different people. And what's right for me isn't necessarily right for her.

Jill says...
Both Mark and I have had to move from thinking that our differences are wrong to realizing that our differences are just...well, different! When we impose our likes and dislikes on others that ventures into judgment and criticism and that's never healthy for a marriage."

A great marriage is not when the 'perfect couple' come together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.

Another milestone

Today was one of those long awaited/long dreaded days. Caleb is starting to walk! We were playing outside this afternoon and he held onto my finger and started walking. We cruised all around the yard, and I was so excited that we rode the 4-wheeler over to the farm to make sure Daddy saw it too. Before he went to bed tonight he was walking across the kitchen all by himself!

I've been waiting and wondering when this day would come. It seemed like every other child I saw that was Caleb's age or younger was already walking. Of course, you worry when your child isn't doing what others are doing, but I knew in the back of my head that he would start walking someday soon! It's so cute to see him try and find his balance; walking with his arms out straight and taking funny, little steps. I think he's quite proud of himself too. He has a proud smile on his face while he's taking those steps. Of course, I do expect him to continue crawling for awhile- I mean, how else can he push his trucks and tractors around at lightening speed?

I took some pictures of him out in the yard today, and after looking at them on my computer, I realized my baby isn't really a baby anymore. And walking is one of those big milestones that signifies toddlerhood. It's bittersweet, but fun to see him changing so much. I'm so glad I'm able to stay home with Caleb and see these exciting moments in his life!

"Being a full-time mother is one of the highest salaried jobs...since the payment is pure love."

4 years later

Today is our 4th wedding anniversary! It's hard to believe it's already been 4 years, but oh, how the time has flown. When I woke up this morning I found a fresh doughnut and a card on the table. That's already a great start :) Jeff has been wanting a new bow to hunt with for a long time, so I made the last minute decision to buy one for him, and suprise him for our anniversary. This morning I went to Gander Mountain and talked to a knowledgeable person (because I don't know the first thing about bows!), and bought what I thought he would like. Yes, it did hurt my pocketbook, but it was well worth it to see the suprise on his face when he came home for lunch this afternoon. I love seeing him happy!

I hope and pray in the coming years that we'll continue to suprise eachother, support eachother, and keep on trucking down this road of life that we have created for ourselves. We've both matured alot since our wedding day, and I can honestly say that the years keep getting better. There is no one I'd rather spend the rest of my life with.

From our wedding day:

"I, Katie, take you, Jeff, as my husband, my friend, my love. On this day I affirm the relationship we have enjoyed, looking to the future to deepen and strengthen it. I will be yours in want or in plenty, in sickness or in health, in sorrow or in joy. I will cherish you and respect you, comfort and encourage you, be open with you and stay with you, as long as we both shall live."

Family differences

It's been another week and I'm taking a little time to reflect. Jeff and I will be celebrating our 4th wedding anniversary later this week, and we ended up going out for an anniversary dinner last night. Jeff took me to Leo's downtown, and it was so delicious! I just love doing new things with Jeff. While we enjoyed a great dinner, we talked a little about the years since we got married, the years that we dated, and the current stage our life is in. The more years we are married, the more we learn about eachother, but also the more we learn about family dynamics.

Jeff and I were raised in very different ways. Although there are some similarities, we've found that even in these few short 4 years of being married, there are also some big differences. There have been a few disagreements throughout the years regarding different things that involve our familes or the way we were brought up. I suppose each new married couple realizes these differences as more and more years go by. I come from a pretty small, independent family, whereas Jeff comes from a large, extended close-knit family. It's easier to sort things out when it's just the two of you, but after adding Caleb to our family we have found we need to come together and make our own family priorities.

I think having family close by is a huge blessing, and we're both glad we have family support. After all, family is really all you have. But, I also think there is a fine line where family can become a point of stress and disagreement. I'm hopeful that Jeff and I will learn and grow together as we create our own, individual family in the years to come.

"A son is a son until he takes him a wife. A daughter is a daugther all of her life."

Motherly Friends

Tonight I went over to our friend's new house for a girl's night. Every few months a group of mostly young moms, get together to eat and chat. Well, tonight was special because we all got a tour of a lovely new house! What a fabulous house to raise a family in, and have your friends with kids come over to- there was so much space. Besides the beautiful house, it was really great to hang out with other young moms. Everyone brought their kids, and it's just fun to watch them all interact, and be able to talk about babies/kids in a comfortable setting. Not that my friends who aren't moms yet are no fun (you all are a different kind of fun!), but it's refreshing to see and hear how other moms deal with their kids.

It was interesting to watch Caleb's interaction (or lack thereof) with the other kids. He was very quiet, and just played with toys by himself. While we were sitting downstairs, Caleb was upstairs playing quietly with a truck by himself. It's not that he doesn't like being around other kids; he was interested in what they were doing. But, he just seems content by himself. I know I should never trust him alone, but tonight he listened to me when I said no, and enjoyed his playtime. I hope this lasts! :)

It's refreshing, especially for me being a stay-at-home mom, to be in the presence of other moms and give Caleb a social experience. I hope our friendships and playdates continue through the years.

"It is not until you become a mother that your judgement slowly turns to compassion and understanding."

Cozy Coupe

Ok, let me just start by saying that Caleb loves books, and he really loves a book about the Cozy Coupe Car by Little Tikes. So, I was on my way to Target this morning and got completely side-tracked when I drove by a garage sale that had one for sale! I pulled over immediately and bought it. Although it's in used shape, I knew he would love having the real thing. Then I noticed that the neighborhood down the road from our house was having alot of garage sales today. I've never been much of a garage-saler, but there were so many great finds. Therefore, I preceded to buy clothes and more toys for Caleb. When I got home, I hauled out all of my purchases, and let Caleb have at them. He loved the Cozy Coupe, and it melts my heart to see him smile and have fun. Gosh, I'm such a mom! I feel like I never even look for things for myself anymore. It's all about Caleb. Not to mention, our house and yard will probably start looking like a daycare center pretty soon. It's amazing how fast toys and things to entertain Caleb start piling up!

Anyways, the point of this post is that I love to see my little guy happy. I know every parent wants to see their children happy, but today it was as simple as finding a used Cozy Coupe Car. Somehow, I think this might get more complicated and expensive as the days go by....

"Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own."

What a beautiful weekend!

Wow, it's been awhile since I've checked in and updated the blog. It just seems that I've been really busy lately, but I think things have calmed down now since all of the wedding festivities are over.

I had the wonderful opportunity to be a bridesmaid in one of my dearest friend's weddings this weekend. Rachel and I have been friends for around 13 years, and she had a beautiful, grand ceremony and reception yesterday. Although she and San have been married a few months already, they decided to throw a fancy wedding for family and friends to attend. It was fun to dress up and attend such a beautiful event, but it was also a special thing to watch San and Rachel commit themselves to eachother before God, and family and friends.

The wedding was at Mayflower Congregational in East Grand Rapids. It is one of the most gorgeous churches I've ever seen. It was the perfect fit for an elegant bride and groom. We rode a trolley from the church to the Amway Grand Hotel, where a jazz band played music, we dined in the Patlind ballroom, and danced the night away. I got the chance to catch up with some old high school friends, and enjoy lots of great conversation. Everyone's lives have taken such different directions, but it seemed simple to catch up on where were are. I don't think Jeff and I have ever been to such an elegant, beautiful event!

I wish Rachel and her new husband all the love, friendship, and hope that they deserve. I took my camera and snapped photos of the girls getting ready, and Rachel in her all her bridal splendor. The years really do fly past, and it's these big life moments that seem to go the fastest.

"A happy marriage is a new beginning of life, a starting point for happiness and usefulness."

Couple time

Well, we're in the midst of our wedding weekend marathon. Two down, one more to go! Yesterday we attended one of Jeff's friend's wedding. It was kind of an all day affair, and my mom (being the most wonderful person that she is! You too dad...)took Caleb to stay overnight at their house. It was a beautiful wedding and reception, and so refreshing for me to have some time with Jeff and our friends. We even got to sleep in this morning and have a leisure time like we used to. Don't get me wrong, I love being a mom, but I also love reconnecting with Jeff and having time with our friends. I'm also so thankful to have such a caring and considerate mom, who knows the value of couple time. I always know Caleb is in good hands when I leave him there, and she always encourages us to enjoy our 'time away'.

All of these weddings have been a good reminder of the value of marriage. It's so fun to see the happy couples, friends and family gathered together, and the start of a new life for each couple. I wish them all the best! Next weekend I will be a part of my friend Rachel's wedding. I'm sure it will a grand event, and I'm excited and hopeful for a happy life for her and her husband.

By the way, wedding festivities are exhausting. I am getting old you know....

"A successful marriage invloves falling in love multiple times, always with the same person."

Just a quickie....

Phew...I've been so busy it seems like. I opened my email and found just what I needed for today. Thought I would share it with you.

"So don't be anxious about tomorrow. God will take care of your tomorrow too. Live one day at a time."

This is really hard for me to do....but definetly something I need a daily reminder of!

Fairs are fun!

Tonight Jeff ran out of work a little early and we took off for the Hudsonville Fair. It was a beautiful night, and we were excited to see how Caleb would react to his first fair. (ok, it's not his first. He went to the Kent County Fair last year, but was only 3 months old!) Jeff grew up going to the Hudsonville Fair, and I've come to love it over the past few years.

As we all know, Caleb is obsessed with tractors, trucks, and cows. I'm starting to think that farming is genetic..... Anyways, tonight was the antique tractor pull. Not only did Jeff think it was great, Caleb did too. What a joy it was to see his eyes light up! We walked through the animal barns, and watched as Caleb pointed and talked to the cows and horses. He doesn't seem to be afraid of big animals. This could be good or bad. As we walked through the fair, not only was I brought back to my days of competing at the fair, but I hope that one day Caleb will want to participate in fair. There's just something to be said about the hard work, competition, and diligence that kids go through to show their animal or craft at the fair. I think it teaches good life lessons, while providing simple fun at the same time.

Life is far too busy and technological these days. Going to the fair just brings me back to the simple things. What a perfect summer night.

"Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated."

Long time friends

This morning Jen and I took Aly and Caleb to the Children's Museum. It's just so fun to get out and do things with another mom and baby. Someone who can appreciate what you're going through and laugh along with you. Well, I get to share that with my best friend Jen, and that makes it even better! We have been friends for about 10 years and been though so much together. We got a little wild in our teen years, got married and worked, and even had our first child at the same time. Aly and Caleb were born only 1 day apart! And what a joy it has been to go through pregnancy and motherhood with Jen. We always have such a great time together, and it's so easy for us to talk and laugh. In each stage of motherhood, we've shared countless texts, phone calls, and get togethers that covered every emotion and subject in the book.

It is a great thing to watch our kids grow up together, as I'm sure they will. I'm so proud and happy to have such a lasting and special friendship with Jen. I love you Jen! Your friendship is one of the most meaningful relationships in my life.

P.S. This picture is for you Jen! Those were the days, huh? :)

"A friend is one who believes in you when you have ceased to believe in yourself."

Patience is a virtue

I'm very much enjoying this Sunday night. Why you may ask? Well, because Caleb is sleeping, Jeff is home, and I can just sit and stare at the tv or computer. This past week and weekend was a test of my patience. If you don't know me very well, I'm not a very patient person. Ok, I may have gained a little bit more since having Caleb, but it's still thin at times.

Jeff is always working late, so it's Caleb and I most of the day. It's suprisingly hard to keep a 15 month old busy. Caleb is also in the stage where when he doesn't get what he wants, he sobs. Usually, I just try to ignore it, but after a full day of it, I'm ready for him to go to bed. Jeff also had an all-day bachelor party yesterday, so I got to enjoy a particularly challenging day of whining and crying. To top that off, I will admit- I was jealous that Jeff got to spend a whole day having fun with his friends.

I shouldn't feel like I do, but patience runs thin sometimes. And even though I wouldn't change my life for the world right now, I sometimes miss those freedoms of hanging out with friends on a Saturday. (and having adult conversations which don't include crying.) Ok, that's my dose of honesty for the week!

"Patience is the ability to count down before you blast off."

All because two people fell in love

There's a Brad Paisley song that I'm reminded of when I look at a recent picture of my family. It goes something like this:

"There ain't nothing not affected
when two hearts get connected.
All that will be or ever was
every single choice we make,
every breath we get to take,
is all because two people fell in love."

This past weekend my Dad took some great family pictures of me, Jeff, and Caleb. I thought about this song because we wouldn't be here if our parents didn't fall in love. Ok, this isn't true for all cases, but in the case of my family it is. Families are born out of love, and generations continue through the strength of love. In fact, I think love is one of the most powerful emotions. I always felt love from my family, and that love expanded when I met Jeff. Nothing feels better than being in love! But I have to say the greatest and most powerful love I have ever felt, is for my child. I want to protect him, guide him, and help him become the best he can be. I would even lay down my own life for him. I often look at Caleb and feel so amazed and proud. He is the product of love! Family is at the heart of love, and nothing is more important than that.

"A happy family is but an earlier heaven."

Sweet innocence

Caleb and I were playing outside today, and I took the chance to shoot some photos of him. Lucky for me he's photogenic! What sweet, incredible innocence I see in him. Isn't it amazing? That look in a baby or child's eyes; it just captures me because it's something tangible and real. And it's also something that fades away with time and knowledge. It's certainly inevitable that that expression will change, but oh, how I love it right now. I feel like I can look straight in to his heart and see it's as pure as snow.

I wish we could remember how it felt to be purely joyful and innocent. I guess that's why God blesses us with children.

"Every child comes with the message that God is not yet discouraged of man."

Busy weekend!

I'm still trying to unwind from a super busy weekend. I do love having something to do, but it's a lot harder doing it with a 14 month old baby! Friday morning Jen and I met at Holland beach with Aly and Caleb and spent the morning there. Both kids had so much fun, and it's great to see them interact. I mean, they are future husband and wife...;) The rest of the day I had to tend to the farmer's market. Friday night I had my good friend Rachel's bachelorette party. It was pretty low key, so I was able to get up Saturday morning and take Caleb to his first parade. Jen and I took Aly and Caleb to the Byron Days Parade. I think I was just as excited to see the fire trucks and horses as Caleb was. It brought me back to my days of sitting on the curb in Kentwood, watching all the shenanigans that go on with a parade. Saturday afternoon I quickly stopped in at my other friend's bachelorette pool party. Then, it was off to the Whitecaps game to watch my nephew, Andrew sign the National Anthem. He did such a great job, and I was a very proud Aunt! He's growing up right before our eyes, and every time I see him I think he's gotten just a little bit older. Then, lastly, we drove up to Big Rapids Sunday morning to eat dinner with the Miedema family at Cran Hill Ranch camprground. It was a particularly exhausting weekend for Caleb, and I'm hoping he'll catch up on his sleep today.

This is probably just the beginning of many busy weekends to come. Even though we get worn out, it's a great time, and I'm glad we have all of these opportunities to hang out with family and friends.

I'll leave you with this quote to get your week going;

"The purpose of life is to live a life of purpose."

That loving feeling....

Tonight I had the opportunity to take my friend Katie's engagement pictures. She comes from a farming family, and is marrying in to another one. I just think they are a great couple, and I'm excited to see what the future holds for them!

As I took their pictures, and then when I came home and edited them, I just loved looking at Katie and Travis. This probably sounds weird, but it's their expressions that I recognize. Those expressions that I'm sure I had right before Jeff and I got married. I can't quite put my finger on it, but maybe those feelings and expressions are those of excitment for the future, and the comfort of knowing you found the person you've dreamed of loving forever.

I just had to share what I was thinking tonight. Goodnight.

"I dreamed of a wedding of elaborate elegance, a church filled with family and friends. I asked him what kind of wedding he wished for, He said one that would make me his wife."

These are the days you'll remember

What a beautiful weekend! Even though I was busy with the farmer's market for most of it, we managed to get some quality family time in. Last night we ate at Russ's. It's cheap food, and we were probably the only ones without walkers and white hair, but hey....that's whay you do when you have a kid. Caleb is starting to eat grown-up food, and slowly transitioning out of baby food. I think I like that!

Today we went to Holland for a picnic on the beach. I took a couple moments to reflect on my family as we sat and ate sandwhiches and watched the boats. I am so fortunate! Those sort of moments are the ones I'll remember. It's nothing very exciting, but a time when it's just me, Jeff, and Caleb. No interruptions or plans we have to attend to. I am finding out it's sort of a rare thing to enjoy this sort of time with our busy schedules. Sometimes you just need a break from the hussle and bustle, a time to focus on what's most important.

We have some busy weeks coming up, so I'm glad we had the time to enjoy eachother today.

"Life is a sucession of moments. To live each one is to succeed."

Why is it so hard to be Content?

In all honesty, lately I've been struggling with being content. It's nothing new, I've always found that to be a challenging aspect in my life. Am I the only one? Part of me thinks it plain human nature to always want something more, something different. For me, it's been looking for a new/bigger house. There are so many great deals out there, but on the flip side, it's a lousy time to sell. Hopefully I'm not bothering Jeff too much with my insistent house searching and news updates about open lots. But, I probably am. Jeff is one of the most content people I've ever met!

Sometimes I think, "Everything would be easier if I hadn't wasted my time away in college doing something that didn't get me anywhere." Yes, Mom and Dad, you were right! If only I'd used my smarts and became a nurse, I could make those bucks and put us in a newer and bigger house. But I'm starting to realize it's not worth the regret. I really do have everything I could ever need. (Well, ok... a horse would be nice...but not necessary ;) I live a blessed life; full of health, love, and comfort.

Times are tough these days, and financial struggles hit close to home for me and my family. My discontent is difficult some days, but I'm really trying to push my way through and put myself in another person's shoes. There are people out there struggling to eat, pay their bills, and keep their job. That's why I can't even believe I have the right to feel this way. So, I apologize.

"Do not spoil what you have now by desiring what you have not; remember that what you have now was once among the things you only hoped for."

Farmer's wife

Tomorrow the wives of Generation 4, Inc. are starting a farmer's market. After meeting and discussing just how involved we want to be in the family business, we decided to give it a trial run this year. Located on Byron Center Avenue, between 100th st. and 108th st., fresh produce will be for sale. We're hopeful this takes off, and we can reinvest what we earn to make the market bigger and better next year.

Being a farmer's wife comes with a few expectations that I was unaware of when I married a farmer. Really, I didn't know much about farming. Or at least, farming never really mattered to me. I just ate what I bought at the grocery store. Being married to a farmer, I've learned just how important weather, soil, seed, fertilizer, and hard work are in order to make a living. That sweet corn or squash or cucumber you buy at the grocery store is the result of a lot of time, money, sweat, and prayer.

Farming has its ups and downs, just like any other job. In my opinion, what makes farming so interesting is that it's been around for thousands of years. It's what feeds the world. It's what keeps families together and binds generations to something as simple as soil, water, and sun. I've gained a great respect for farmers and the farming industry, no matter what it is that you grow, feed, sell, or harvest. It's a simple and not so simple life; as time and technology change, so does farming. But, it always comes down to the prayers and hard work of those who aren't afraid to get their hands a little dirty.

"The farmer has to be an optimist, or he wouldn't still be a farmer."

The Power of a Positive Wife

I was recently given a book to read by my good friend Stephanie, who said this book was full of marriage changing words. I already consider my marriage to be a great one, but I thought, why not make it better? I'm almost done with this book, called "The Power of a Positive Wife", by Karol Ladd, and I must say that it has changed the way I look at certain aspects of being a wife. Some of the chapters have opened my eyes to what I am lacking, and what I can do to make myself and my marriage stronger.

This book is written with words of advice in a Christian format, using the Bible as its backbone. It's great to read short passages that apply to the content of each chapter. There are 7 Power Principles: The Power of Love, The Power of Commitment, The Power of Respect, The Power of Encouragement, The Power of Physical Attraction, The Power of Responsibility, and The Power of God's Presence. The parts that stuck out the most to me, and that I have decided to work on, are forgiveness, respect, and encouragement.

A powerful quote from the chapter on respect: " As positive wives we need to understand that respect is a powerful tool in our hands. What happens when a wife respects her husband? He moves forwarad, knowing that the person who is closest to him in all the world see his potential and backs him up. It's a powerful thing to have someone support you and believe in you."

Anyways, if you haven't read the book, and are interested, check it out! Marriage is a never ending work of love.

"Weather the storms of life by turning toward one another and building into each other rather than rejecting one another."

Saying goodbye to a part of babyhood...

Tonight was the first night of not giving Caleb a bedtime bottle. I know it's corny, and he is ready to stop drinking from a bottle, but that last precious bottle, before he tucks in for the night, is making me blue. He didn't seem to mind it all, and after reading a few books, he was more than happy to give me kisses and go to bed.

I've already noticed, in more ways than I can count, how fast that precious time of babyhood goes by. As I box up the bottles, I clearly remember the times where we rocked and cuddled and shared that special time while he drank a bottle. I know I'll probably bring them back out again someday for the next baby, but I'll never have those moments again with Caleb. Yes, there is a time and place for everything, and I know there are great moments ahead, but tonight I'm taking the chance to reflect on how far we've come in such little time.

So to you moms or moms-to-be out there, remember this:

"Cleaning and scrubbing can wait for tomorrow, because babies grow up I've learned from my sorrow. So quiet down cobwebbs, and dust go to sleep. I'm rocking my baby, and babies don't keep."

Mosquito heaven

It was a fairly uneventful weekend, except for the fact that Caleb is a fine feast for the mosquitos. The poor guy got a few bites above his eye, and the next thing you know, he looks like he got in a fist fight. Suprisingly, he wasn't bothered by his lack of eyesight in one eye. It seems the mosquitos are really bad this year with the humid, damp weather.

Caleb's swollen eye, and the fact that he's able to smile through sicknesses and pain, give us an even better view of what his personality is shaping up to be. In my eyes, this boy is one gentle little guy. His personality is quiet, light hearted, and gentle as far as I can see at this point. What wonderful attributes; hopefully they stick around. And I'm not just saying this because I am his mother. I truly think he is a gentle soul.

Hope your weekend left you ready to tackle this week.

"Your children will become what you are; so be what you want them to be"

Phew...what a day

What a busy day! Caleb slept in this morning, so I enjoyed some time for coffee, cereal, and facebook stalking without interruption. It never fails- I put food in Remmy's dish, and the clanking of his tags against the bowl wakes Caleb up. Oh well...I'll take what I can get.

After breakfast, Caleb and I went over to Steph's house and went for a walk. I value my friendship with Steph so much. She is such a kind, inspirational girl, and you just can't help but feel in a great mood when you're around her. Caleb went in a pool for his first time today over at Steph's mom's house. He really loved it! He also had a few little friends there to entertain him, but instead he chose to bang around the sunscreen bottle. If only staying busy and content in life was as easy as that!

Later this afternoon I went to Whistlestop park and took a few photos of a friend's two small boys. (See above pictures) It was very difficult to get some good shots while one was running around refusing to look at the camera, and the other was just learning to walk. I'm still working on this whole photography thing. Maybe I should stick to non-moving objects.

Well, it's just another exciting Friday night here at the Miedema household. Hot dogs for dinner, Jeff mowing the lawn, and me editing pictures. Sometimes I wonder when weekends became just like any other day. Oh wait....now I remember...

"The first sign of maturity is the discovery that the volume button also turns to the left".

Give it a try

After some thought and consideration, as well as reading some other blogs, I thought I would give this a try. It's always been easier, and faster, for me to write down news, thoughts, and feelings. Is this a van Baal trait? It very well could be, since us van Baal's aren't much of the talking type.

I'm hoping this blog is a way to share news, thoughts, comments, and feelings with friends and family. We don't live a very exciting life, and in fact our days may seem quite boring, but to us, our simple life is just another day in paradise.

Whether it's day-to-day, or week-to-week, topics I might write about will most likely include Caleb (since he is the center of our world!), thoughts, feelings, quotes, reflections, or maybe a recipe or good find thrown in. Just a way to let you in on a little slice of the Miedema family.

Enjoy!